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Quick Way To Stop Children Fussing
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Quick Way To Stop Children Fussing
Quick Way To Stop Children Fussing
This strategy was named Boring Cuddles by New Zealand Family Therapist, Diane Levy. It is very simple to implement but has almost magical results when properly used.
During a Boring Cuddle, the parents say nothing and do very little. The parents make no shushing noises nor do they provide information or point out alternative activities, they do not try to distract the child from their emotions. The parents don't make eye contact with the upset child or try to stop them from making the fuss or noise. They simply hold the child and perhaps kiss or stroke their hair, or rock them gently. These are called Boring Cuddles because they are boring. The parents only have to give physical comfort and trust the process. They can carry on with their own conversations or activities.
At the end of the fussing or crying period, the child will attempt to explain what happened or otherwise engage with the parents. At this time it is useful to make warm eye contact and to listen to the story without interrupting. As the story draws to an end, making an empathic statement such as "That hurt, didn't it?" or "That was unpleasant, wasn't it?" can be supportive and help the child to make sense of what happened.
Boring Cuddles can be used for any situation where children are sad or hurt. Children for whom this is a regularly used strategy seem to be very 'brave' when they have hurt themselves and have a greater sense of self-assurance than others. Eventually, a child may simply clamber on to the laps of their parents, or retell the story or show the small injury - and the parents listening, without interrupting, is adequate support. Although it can take longer (each individual situation and over time) for very sensitive children, they too can learn to trust themselves to manage upsets, when Boring Cuddles are used regularly by their parents.
This strategy is easy to use and highly effective because it works with the human brain. The child has the time to process the event, that has caused the upset, without help or interference from their parents. It can seem too easy or illogical, some parents feel like they aren't doing enough work and others feel they cannot trust their child, however, it is the most efficient way to stop fussing around unnecessary events, and reduce the time and amount of fussing during times of real emotional or physical distress.
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